The taboo of Dating & Sex in the Indian Household

The topic says it all, doesn't it? Dating, on its own is such a massive milestone. There are hardly a few families who have openly accepted to this growing trend. It is definitely an immense amount of adaptability that we GenZ expect from our parents. To an extent, sometimes it feels that we are being unfair to them, don't you think? Just take a break, and think about it, we are expecting our parents to allow us to find a partner for ourselves in times when the news about rapes and hate crimes pop up every second day. This is not to make the point that there are only dangerous men out there, the whole point is that the world is a complicated web of strangers, lies and deceit. You cannot trust anybody completely in these twisted times. Your personal safety and security cannot be breached with. That is the whole purpose of parents existing, they are the ones who would look out for you no matter the circumstances.

 

The new-age parents have definitely progressed with time. To an extent where they being girls were not supposed to think beyond marriage, it is a privilige for us that our parents have crossed those hurdles and given us such an amazing opening of a bright future. The next generation of parents are even more open-minded. They have seen what technology can do, the good, bad and the worst. Our parents are traditional in approach, they still feel hesitant to talk about intimate matters of dating and sex. According to them, such things are not a matter of discussion, rather shall be understood eventually with time.

 

There is hardly a minority of parents who feel the need to make their kids understand about the basic fundamentals of a safe intercourse, choosing the right partner or to talk about private matters such as these in the open. The Indian society is progressing towards growth, open minded thinking and modernity, that is absolutely true. The thought process is definitely taking a turn, however, the kind of shame or shyness that Indian parents go through, is something truly sad.

 

These matters must be brought to the limelight, not only because it is quite sensuous to talk about, but rather teenage guys and girls must get the information through the right sources. If not done correctly, the consequences could be alarming. The minds of teenagers is quite impressionable. They can easily be manipulated if not guided properly, hence strict supervision is a necessity when it comes to sex education.

 

Children may get exposed to porn sites, making them quite vulnerable. Long exposure to such explicit content can lead to dangerous effects, leading them to either addiction or mental health disorders.

 

At the end, it is just how one views the situation. If your family does not allow you to date a guy you really like, you may see them to either be protective or controlling. If they tell you to keep mum when sensitive issues like sex are discussed, you may feel that they are old fashioned. No matter, however you look at it, even though you have turned out to be an adult by age, they will still treat you like you are their five year old.

 

All they want for you is ensuring that you remain secure, safe and happy. It is their responsibillity to abide by anything that will keep you protected. So, don't be too harsh on them for things that they forbid you from. Be grateful for everything that they have managed to provide for, even for the simplest of things. Your small gesture of kindness and love means the world to them.